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  • For Men

    QUESTIONS YOU MIGHT BE ASKING —

    • Is she pregnant?

    • I'm confused about what to do. Is this the end of my dreams?

    • What is my next step?

    • What is involved with being a parent?  I'm not sure I'm ready.

    • What if now isn’t the best time to have a baby?

    • What do I do now?

    • What if I don’t want her to abort my baby?

    The DOs —

    • Do confirm that her pregnancy test is positive –

    The PRC provides free laboratory quality pregnancy testing along with many other services.  If we verify a positive pregnancy test, we may offer a free ultrasound to help answer further questions about the pregnancy.  This ultrasound visit with a registered nurses will help her to understand what is going on with her body, and will help you both better understand your options.

    • Do listen –

    This situation involves more than just you. Having your emotional support and physical support will reassure her that you care.

    • Do gather all the facts –

    Our clinic exists to help you and your girlfriend come to an informed decision together. We encourage you to come with her to her pregnancy test appointment.  This will help her to know that you care.

    The DON’Ts —

    • Don’t Bail –

    Let her know you want to help her in making any decisions that will affect your future.

    • Don’t Pressure Her –

    Pressuring her will only push her away, possibly into a regretful situation.  You’ll do well to work together as a team.

    • Don’t Forget –

    You have a very active role in this situation.  Listen to input as well as give your thoughts.

    The DECISIONS —

    • If her test is positive, and pregnancy is confirmed by ultrasound, you and she will be facing many decisions.

    • Make an informed decision, rather than reacting out of fear or panic.

    Your phone call to our clinic will allow us to schedule a prompt visit to verify if she is pregnant and to provide the trusted care, support, and resources you both need to make decisions that are right for you.

    • Call 937.525.3780 to schedule an appointment.

  • Help a Friend

    If your friend thinks she may be pregnant, she is probably very scared.  We are here to provide trusted care, support, and resources to help her make decisions. Here are some things that might help her:

    • Come to our clinic for a free pregnancy test.  We won’t tell anyone she’s been here.  If you can, come with her so she doesn’t feel alone.

    •  If her test is positive, we can give her accurate information about the decisions she is facing - including information on abortion, adoption, or parenting.

    • We will ask her what her greatest need is, and help her identify what information will be helpful to her.

    • If her test is negative, we will help her consider what her next steps will be, and provide education about how to reduce her risks of future pregnancy or STDs.

    You owe it to your friend to help her make a decision based on information, not fear.  As her friend, her decision will affect you, too.  An unintended pregnancy can be a scary thing.  We are here to help her, with your help and support, to explore all her options.

    Your friend may call us for a confidential, free appointment at 937.525.3780.

  • After Abortion

    If you decided to have an abortion, you know that the memories associated with this experience can be difficult and even painful. Months and years may go by without any remembrance of the abortion experience. Then, one day, you find yourself wondering what your life would have been like had your child lived. Triggers like seeing children that are the same age your child might have been, or the anniversary date of the abortion/birth date of the child, may leave you feeling anxious, scared, and fearful.

     

    For most women, the abortion is a closely held secret. Rarely do we talk about this pain with family or friends. Many are fearful that others will judge us if they know we made an abortion decision. There is good news - God can heal abortion pain and bring new joy to your heart.

     

    How do you know you need post-abortion healing?

     

    Perhaps you are thinking, "Okay, so I had an abortion. But that is in the past. Do I really need to be healed?" Some women seemingly never need to work through any kind of healing process. But for many of us, the memory of abortion lies like a hidden infection within, weakening and impairing us in ways we may have never realized were related. Is that true for you? See if you recognize yourself in some of the following questions:

    • Do you feel reluctant to talk about the subject of abortion, or do you feel guilt, anger, or sorrow when discussing your own abortion?

    • Do you tend to think of your life in terms of "before" and "after" the abortion?

    • Do you have lingering feelings of resentment or anger toward people involved in your abortion, such as the baby's father, friends, or your parents?

    • Have you found yourself either avoiding relationships or becoming overly dependent in them since the abortion? Are you overly protective of any children you have now?

    • Have you begun or increased use of drugs or alcohol since the abortion, or do you have an eating disorder?

    • Have you felt a vague sort of emptiness, a deep sense of loss, or had prolonged periods of depression?

    • Do you sometimes have nightmares, flashbacks, or hallucinations relating to the abortion?

    If so, it is likely you are experiencing pain related to your abortion, many times referred to as "post-abortion trauma."

     

    At the PRC, we can provide post abortion recovery support, among friends, in a safe and non-judgmental environment.

    Please call for more information and begin your recovery: 937.525.3780

    All contact is confidential.

    Additional help after an abortion:

    • Call 866.482.LIFE for 24/7 confidential care helpline

    • Go to www.Nationalhelpline.org

    • Go to www.abortionchangesyou.com

    The information on this page is intended for general education purposes and should not be relied upon as a substitute for professional and/or medical advice.

  • After Miscarriage

    MISCARRIAGE:

    A GUIDE TO CARE

    Many things can go wrong in early pregnancy. About 1 in 4 early pregnancies ends in a miscarriage. In most of these cases, the fetus wasn't developing normally. Often, this is nature's way of ending a pregnancy in which the fetus couldn't survive.

     

    Most of the time we don't know what causes the miscarriage. Like any loss, miscarriage results in a wide range of feelings that usually come in stages:

    • Shock and denial. Feelings of numbness and disbelief are common.

    • Anger. You might be angry with yourself, your partner, or your doctors.

    • Guilt. You can feel that something you did caused the miscarriage. If you took medicine or drugs, drank alcohol, or overexerted yourself — perhaps before you knew that you were pregnant — you might blame yourself for the miscarriage.

    • Lack of control. You might feel powerless or out of control. The "what if" and "why" questions you're asking don't have clear answers.

    • Acceptance. Coming to terms with the loss you feel is a painful, but important step. This helps you to heal and allows you to build hope for the future.

    We don't know how to prevent miscarriage. Nothing that you normally do, such as working, exercising, having sex, even taking birth control pills and most other medicines, is known to cause a miscarriage.

    Miscarriages aren't caused by stress.  The grief process is worse during the first month or two. It can go on for a year or more. Give yourself time to work through your feelings.

    Guidelines for Self-care After a Miscarriage

    • Give yourself a chance to heal, both physically and emotionally. Get lots of rest, especially for the first 24 hours.

    • You might have bleeding like a menstrual period for a few days. Then you could have spotting on and off for up to 4 weeks. You might have mild cramping for a day or two.

    Call your doctor if you have:

    • A temperature above 100° F.

    • Heavy bleeding (more than the heaviest day of a normal period).

    • Cramping after the first 2 or 3 days.

    • Any severe pain.

    At the PRC, we care about you and are here for you.  "Hearts of Hope" is a miscarriage/infant loss support group. Please call the PRC for more information at 937.525.3780.

  • Adoption

    Adoption is a loving choice that some expectant parents make when they are unable to parent or provide for their baby at this particular time.

     

    At the Pregnancy Resource Clinic, we can refer you to agencies that will help you decide whether adoption is right for you.  Only you can make this decision.  You will be given information to help you with this decision.  If you choose to make an adoption plan, the agency involved will continue to provide support for you before, during, and after the adoption. There are several ways that adoption can occur:

    • Open adoption

    With open adoption, you are in charge!  You decide who parents your baby, and what the ongoing relationship looks like.  You select who you want to adopt your baby from among many couples who are already approved to be adoptive parents.  You can decide how much, if any, ongoing contact you would like with the adoptive family.

    • Closed adoption

    In closed adoption, information is not shared between the birth parents and the adoptive family, and no contact is maintained between the two.  This type of adoption rarely happens these days.  However, there are “semi-open” adoptions, where information is shared at the beginning, where you can choose the adoptive parents, but then you can both agree to have no further contact.

    • A relative adoption

    In this situation, you may know a relative who you would like to adopt your baby. This would be similar to the open adoption process described above.  In this situation, you would need to have a lawyer process the paperwork to make this kind of adoption legally binding.

    • Cost

    There is no cost to you when you make an adoption plan.  The adoptive couple is responsible for all of the expenses.  Talk with one of the agencies listed below for more information on this.

    We encourage you to learn more about adoption.

    Call us at 937.525.3780 for an appointment to learn more.

    Agencies and resources on adoption:

    • Choosing Hope Adoptions (in Springfield): 937.207.9463 or www.choosinghopeadoptions.org

    • Adoption Professionals (will meet locally): 1.513.321.BABY or www.adoptionprofessionals.net

  • Parenting Support

    If you choose to parent your baby, the Pregnancy Resource Clinic can support you in your parenting in  several ways.  There is no charge for any of the services we offer.

    1. Pregnancy information:

    When you come in for your pregnancy test, we will give you a packet with lots information to help you understand your pregnancy, your developing baby, and what you need to do to help you have a healthy pregnancy and baby.

    2. Verification of pregnancy:

    We will give you this official form, which you can use to apply for a medical card or WIC services, if needed.

    3. Prenatal vitamins:

    We will provide a free 30-day supply of prenatal vitamins, refillable monthly.  It is important to take these as soon as you know that you are pregnant.

    4. Ultrasound:

    When your pregnancy test is positive, we will offer a free limited OB ultrasound, for the purpose of confirming your pregnancy and determining how far along you are.  With your permission, we will send a copy of this report to your OB doctor, once you have one.

    5. Parenting classes:

    If you are a first-time parent, you may sign up for our Earn While You Learn parenting class.  In this 6-week-long class, you will meet with a parenting mentor who will teach you about caring for your baby, and help you understand the childbirth process.  You may earn 'baby bucks' and purchase new items for your baby at completion of the class, using your baby bucks!  You will be encouraged to bring a support person with you to this class.

    6. Newborn supplies:

    You will receive newborn items for your baby if you make an appointment within 30 days prior to your delivery date.

    7. Baby supplies for baby's first year:

    Once your baby is born, you may come to the clinic every month for help with needed supplies.  We offer diapers & wipes, formula, baby food, & blankets.  Baby clothing is available through partner agencies in the community.

    8. Community referrals:

    As you share needs and concerns in your life, we will help by providing information on community resources which may be able to help you.

    9. Other classes:

    We will share information on other classes in the community that may help you not only be a better parent, but a better person.  There are classes for both men and women and couples.

    We care about you, and are here to provide trusted parenting support, so that you can be well-equipped to parent your baby.

    Please call us today for an appointment or for more information: 937.525.3780.

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